Losing your independence

So far one of the hardest things about being a parent is coming to terms that I simply can’t do much else besides parent anymore. There’s no going out to dinner anymore or grabbing a drink with friends after work. Well at least not often.

In my 34 years on this planet, I’ve lived mostly independent doing what I want. Things changed a bit once I moved in with Sophia, but still if I wanted to grab a drink with friends, it would just need to be a simple text message.

That all goes out the window once you have a kid. As much as I’d love to try this new restaurant, Colin needs to be in bed by 7:30pm to ensure he has a good night sleep. We could try to do an early dinner at 5pm and bring the kid, but it’s not the most pleasurable experience brining a 2 month year-old to a restaurant in the fussiest part of the day.

Sophia and I are trying to decide if we want to take a quick weekend road trip to Monterey in a couple weeks as well. Normally, this would be a dream weekend for me to get away and do something different. But of course, we’re thinking twice about doing it given that we now have a kid.

It’s a tough transition for sure and I’m still getting used to it. Seeing my son smile at me though makes it all the better. At least I have that to look forward to.