Planning my wedding

Sophia and I did some big wedding planning this weekend and also started planning our honeymoon to Southeast Asia.

I was initially really against the idea of having a wedding. It all felt like a bit of a scam to me. You pay all this money for 1 night and I’ve heard horror stories of venues and vendors effectively extorting the couple. I always felt that weddings were fine if parents wanted to front the wedding, but it just did not make any fiscal sense for 20 or early 30 somethings to be paying for a wedding out of pocket.

There’s definitely some truth to that statement. I know some who have gone into debt to pay for their wedding. We’re saving for a house in the most expensive city in America and breaking into our savings for a wedding didn’t really make much sense to me. But here I am, planning for my wedding in 4 months and I’m actually excited about it.

I’ve realized that in planning my wedding, it wasn’t that I disliked weddings, I just disliked the traditional ones at cookie cutter venues. It just wasn’t me. So Sophia and I decided to do a wedding in the lounge area of a Michelin star restaurant in Chinatown… one of our favorites in the city. Food is very important to Sophia and I, and it just fit perfectly.

We’re going to have a fire spread of Michelin star rated food in a unique venue overlooking one of the coolest streets in San Francisco. That’s something to get excited about.

Of course, we had to make some sacrifices. The venue is smallish and capped out at 60 people. We unfortunately will be unable to invite quite a few of our friends.

While we won’t skimp out on the things that matter (see food and alcohol), we’ll probably be a bit more reserved when it comes to things like flowers and decorations. I’m okay with that - no one ever goes to a wedding and remembers only the table settings afterwards.

I’m pumped. We’re doing our wedding our way at a cost that sits well with us. It won’t be the most lavish wedding with all the bells and whistles, but it’ll be perfect for us.